If there’s one thing Mike and I make clear to everyone we talk to when the topic of wedding gifts come up, it’s the fact that we don’t want pots and pans. We don’t want a toaster. We don’t want a gift card to Homesense. We just want money, lol. I think in this day and age a lot of couples already live together before they get married, so a lot of the time they’ll have most of the things they need or want for their house already. At the rate that our estimated wedding budget is looking – we are really just hoping to get enough money back from our guests to break even. Of course that’s if we’re lucky lol or if we have really generous guests!
But it would be extremely tasteless to put on our invitations that we just want money for a wedding gift so what we’ve been looking at is doing a honeymoon bridal registry! Based on some Google searches, honeymoon bridal registries have been “catching on” for years. I call it the “classy way of saying we want your money” because it is basically friends and family putting money into a fund that pays off our honeymoon plus any money leftover goes straight into our pockets!
So for people who would typically contribute to a registry, this will be perfect. And then for those older guests who would just give cash or cheques in wedding cards, they can still do that.
Either way we’re not getting toasters! lol.
I have actually spoken to the wedding specialist with Farlie so as of now I’m leaning towards them. She was very helpful – I like the way the registry is set up. It’s super simple and straight forward, people can use PayPal to pay online or they can call the agency to put money into the registry over the phone. She told me if you’re planning on doing a honeymoon bridal registry you should just stick to that one registry because she’s found some people also register with say The Bay or a more typical registry store and then most people end up contributing to the other store and not the honeymoon. Why? Because although honeymoon bridal registries continue to “catch on” – it’s still unfamiliar to most. So don’t even give people the option of giving you a toaster!! lol.
It’s also great because they don’t charge you anything extra for having a registry with them – they just take the money that the trip ends up costing. As I wrote above, anything leftover goes straight to us. The factor that will probably be the deciding one will be whether or not Farlie’s trips are cheaper than Flight Centre’s (and vice versa). We still have some research to do- and also we’ve still got a lot of time. Although I do wonder if we set it up a year and a half in advance if people could just contribute money into it for our upcoming birthday and Christmas gifts… Interesting thought!
I suppose even if we do end up getting a physical, boxed/wrapped gift, we will still appreciate it (And everyone obviously gets thank you cards! lol) but we are hoping that word spreads that we kind of just want the money. Also I think actual gifts are for bridal showers and stuff, are they not?
Either way, the honeymoon bridal registry is definitely more our thing. (Which is why when we attended the Bridal Conference I tried avoiding all of the The Bay, Bed Bad & Beyond, etc. kind of booths. Even though all of their representatives tried to get me to sign up with them!!)
And if you are wondering, we don’t have our honeymoon spot nailed down quite yet. I kind of want to do a whole European trip but Mike is more into the beach, all-inclusive idea. In the end we’ll likely pick the one that’s cheaper, lol.
So what are your thoughts on honeymoon bridal registries? Or normal registries? Which do you prefer? Which would you prefer if you were a guest at a wedding? And do you have any honeymoon spot suggestions?!
– Linda :)